Before the time to potty train, as any parent can tell you – baby wipes are a necessity! I had a chance to try these wipes from Bloom Baby, and I’m impressed! Continue reading “Bloom Baby Sensitive Baby Wipes Review”
Things to Consider when Choosing a Double Stroller
With the second baby on the way or if you are expecting twins, you could be asking yourself what type of double stroller will work best for you. Before buying a double stroller, you must consider many factors. Continue reading “Choosing a Double Stroller: Things to Consider”
Every Mom needs some positivity…
There’s enough people out there fueling the Mommy Wars with one sided opinions. “This is better”, or “I would never.”There’s a pretty big lack of respect when it comes to entertaining the idea of a different parenting style, birth plan, or even diapering method (other than your own). It’s important to not focus on the negative, and instead, embrace the positive. So today, I’m counting all the tings I think make me a good Mom…and forgetting everyone else’s reason I’m not good enough for it. Motherhood isn’t easy, but oh so worth it… Continue reading “10 Ways I Am Rocking Motherhood”
Parenting Teaches You What’s Important…
And believe it or not, Play is definitely high on that list! Playtime isn’t just important for your child, but it’s important for you too! And it’s vital to the both of you, that time be made for it. I’m going to explain why it is that I “shut off” the world, and make time for my son…This post contains affiliate links. Please see full disclosure page for more details.
Why Should Kids Play?
Even as young as a few days old, and until they are adolescents, children need play for a variety of reasons. Physical play will…
- Strengthen Muscles
- Develop Fine and Gross Motor Skills
- Promote Brain Development (In Infants)
- Improve creativity, problem solving, & social skills (In All Children)
- Decrease risk of developing serious health complications & conditions (Obesity, heart disease, diabetes, high blood pressure, etc)
Actual “play” is vital to a child’s well being all throughout their life! But first, they must actually learn how to play…
Playing with my baby
Of course when you have a brand new litte baby, you can’t help but play with them. I mean, they can’t do much at that stage but lay there and look at you-but any kind of interaction still translates into a “play” for them. Then, once they can hold things, and focus their little eyes on objects easier-EVERYTHING is play! We started Tummy Time from the day we came home from the hospital (Bruce was pulling up in the baby bassinet in my hospital room) and it didn’t take long for him to start pushing up into a crawl position, rolling over, and sitting up. We collected all the early baby toys we could, and now at 18 months, he has progressed into “Big Boy” toys. But we first needed to teach him how to play.
Whether you’re reading a book together, building a block tower, batting a ball across the floor-it’s all play. And it teaches an infant to grasp, lift, place, throw, crawl, toddle, climb…I could keep going but you get my point. They are learning everything they know of the psychical world by playing! And whatever toy they have isn’t as important to these lessons, as is the factor of having their parent play with them.
I taught my son to throw the ball. I taught him to “drive” the toy car around. And I taught him to beat his hands on the toy drum set to “play music.” yes, the toys did help facilitate that-but he learns just as much if not more, from watching me show him how to play, rather than just giving him the toy and leaving him alone.
How do you find the time?
Yes, I’m a SAHM, so it probably seems like I have a ton of time to dedicate to “playing with my kid.” But, as any parent should know, even if you are at home, your day is usually full of a lot of other responsibilities; cooking, cleaning, errands, whatever-it-takes-to-keep-kid-alive, then you might have a husband to deal with later on in the evening. it’s time consuming!
And if you’re a working mom, you probably have way less time at home for all the same things the SAHM is responsible for, anyway!
But even when I have a ton of stuff on my plate, I make a conscious effort to dedicate solid time to playing with my son. And, it’s really not that hard to do!
Here’s a few tips that help me delegate the time amongst the responsibility…
- Make a “Must-Do” List for the day, and add “Play” as a chore
Today, for example, I planned out an hour dedicated to laundry in the morning (which means “free play without Mommy” for the baby), followed by an hour of “Baby Play.” If it’s on my list, it needs to be done. Having the list helps me not worry about what else is on the list, because time for other chores will be just as dedicated as this one is. Now, one option that you can utilize, should you choose…
- Combine “Work” with “Play
Yes, laundry needs to be folded and put away. While he does sometimes completely un-fold the towels, it’s more of a game for him (and learning experience, once he is older) if I pile all the clothes on the bed-and let him “fold” with me. As he’s older, we can incorporate more tasks into a type of “game”-like carrying groceries, picking up toys (right now he just scatters them out five seconds later), sweeping…you get the idea.
- Make someone else do the work
Yes, sometimes I will make my husband finish up the dinner dishes and run the vacuum around, just so I can spend time playing. Parenting is a teamwork effort, and Daddy can’t always be the one to wrestle in the floor while I cook every dinner. We divide things up, and it keeps both of us grounded, and avoiding become burned out.
I don’t want my son to grow up remembering that Mommy was always too busy” to read a book, drive toy dump trucks, or participate in a splash war during bath time. He’s not only going to learn and grow so much from actual play time, he’s going to make memories. So at the very end of the day, if it’s necessary, I will…
- Bump chores to another day
He’s the biggest priority. Not organizing my pantry.
I honestly hate when people ask me this.
My son is only 13 months old. He’s our first, and we wouldn’t trade him for anything in the world. But at this point in time, am I ready to have another child?
And I ready to go through another nine months of pregnancy with all the marvelous bells and whistles that come attached to creating another human being? Morning sickness, odd cravings like pepperoni wrapped in sour gummy worms (don’t knock it til you’ve tried it), heartburn that could make even the biggest, meanest trucker cry….
And then a newborn while my first is still in diapers? Most likely tandem feeding as well. And Bruce already squirms and kicks, performing “gymnurstics”…and I ready to break up sibling booby fights?
The answer is no. Very simply, no.
The thought of two babies in diapers simultaneously, terrifies me. If you’ve ever fought the poop-explosions, then you know why I have this legitimate fear. So then when would be a good time to have another one?
It seems like in the last two months, I’m asked this question more often. Maybe once you hit the first child’s first birthday, you’re due to have another one? I don’t know. But I do know that I’m not quite ready to begin the newborn stage a second time, just yet. I find it rather humorous that I’m asked that alot. As if the person is secretly hoping I’ll actually pause to think about it and say, “You know, I never thought about it! Thank you for bringing it up! I think I will start on that immediately! Of course I want another baby! But first, I need to get this one off the coffee table he just learned to climb on top of…”
I’m still enjoying my first child as somewhat a baby. He’s still very young. Very cute. Very much still a baby, even as we progress into the toddler stage.
And the farther we get away from those cluster feedings, crying fits, and completely sleepless nights; the less I miss those trying times. Sure, I miss my little guy being so tiny and new. But I love how much more interactive and responsive he is now! I fondly remember my husband holding him at a week old, questioning me about how long he would have to wait before Bruce began laughing and playing with him. Now, he is able to giggle, and play with toys, and have conversations. Granted, it’s baby babble with few words, but it’s still (for my husband’s benefit) better than a blank stare and confused eyes.
Maybe one day, when he’s a lot older, and I have baby blues, we will want another little one crawling around. But for now, we can let Bruce be the only one. And he’s going to be a baby for a while longer.
I enjoy getting him to bed at a decent enough hour (even if he doesn’t stay). I’m enjoying him being able to entertain himself for a few minutes so I can get things done. I’m not ready to begin all over with another in tow. I don’t know when I will be. I just know it’s not right now.
It seems like I usually get this question when Bruce is throwing a tantrum or being especially fussy. Then I wonder if it’s a secret joke that parents of more than one child share with each other. Like a bet made amongst themselves that I’d never be willing to pull it off again, if I even have by now. And that’s a pretty sad thought. Having a baby is hard. And raising a baby is hard. And while we can make jokes about getting (sometimes slightly) painful/permanent things done like tattoos, plastic surgery, or (gulp) marriage, and say “Oh, I bet she’ll never do that again!”…having kids shouldn’t be one of those kinds of jokes.
The size of my family only matters to me, no one else. And the opinions of others aren’t going to make me drag my husband into the bedroom to make another one (although he’d probably like some of that plan). Your role as a parent isn’t defined by how many children you have. And you’re allowed to take as much time as needed in between making them…or not.