Do you think you need to divorce your spouse?

Not every relationships, unfortunately, works out. And sometimes, people get divorced.

Here’s the steps you need to take, if divorce has crossed your mind.

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It is thought that between 42-45% of marriages, end in divorce, today.

It’s a sad recent marriage statistic, but a harsh reality.

No one ever wants to think of their marriage ending.

But, if you feel your relationship has too many obstacles to overcome, Divorce has probably crossed your mind.

That is, if you haven’t already decided that ending your marriage, is the best course of action.

This post is aimed at people who are thinking about divorce and ending their marriage.

Identify Issues

Or is divorce a serious thought lately? Or more fleeting?

All couples go through trials. Not every disagreement ends with couples parting ways.

You should first identify the key issues within your marriage first. Is it because you feel distanced from your spouse? Or, has the attraction once felt waned?

Maybe there’s been a breach of trust, or maybe one (or both) of you has somehow compromised your vows?

Whatever the issues are, you can’t logically comprehend how to approach them without identifying and admitting what they are.

In the process of identifying issues, ask yourself how a divorce will change your situation. Finances, living arrangements, and almost every aspect of your life changes after any divorce.

Not only does life change for you, but your spouse (and children if you have any).

Your feelings about your relationship aren’t necessarily invalidated when you consider your family, but it is important to keep them in mind.

Divorce is a tough decision, either way.

Talk it out…

Miscommunication can be a huge factor when it comes to relationships falling apart.

Talking to your spouse about the reasons you feel your marriage is falling apart, is the best way to keep your marriage together.

This can be done with just the two of you – but sometimes, it helps to have a mediator or councilor.

Marriage counseling can help break the ice with addressing difficult situations. Councilors can also help couples keep things in perspective, and guide us to the correct way to use ours words so the real intent is heard.

There are only so many reasons you have grounds for divorce. Some include-

• You’ve already been living separately for at least a year
• Adultery (cheating)
• Psychical or mental abuse

It’s not possible in every US state to use irreconcilable differences as grounds for divorce.

But if you have a way to work out your problems, you do have a fighting chance to save your marriage.

Note: if you are suffering abuse at the hands of your spouse, it’s best to avoid talking about that issue with them and firstly, find safety and get a lawyer. Get out of that situation!

If it comes down to divorce, hire a Divorce Attorney

With the last point in mind, not all marriages need saving. Divorce is the only option.

Lawyers that specialize in Family Law will be more knowledgeable than your average attorney.

It’s important you hire a professional who not only has the experience necessary, but will keep your interests in mind.

Remember that while doing your own research into the legal process is ok, divorce laws vary by state. Be sure you’re getting the correct information, and always ask your lawyer for an professional opinion.

A lot of divorce and family law attorneys will do free consultations (like these Tampa divorce attorneys).

It never hurts to research the legal firm itself, and ask lots of questions to help in your hiring decision.

Decide for yourself what you want out of the situation…

While you can’t control what your partner may want, you do have control over yourself.

Decide what is important you. This may be custody of children, ownership of property, control over personal assets acquired before the marriage, or even a percentage of assets gained during the marriage.

Your wants are something you need to be able to relay to your attorney, who is handling the legal aspects of the divorce for you. Not only will they guide you on the best course of action to receive your wants, but they can advise what may, or may not, be possible.

Again, you’ll have some tough decisions to make. There may be a few things you are willing to compromise on with your partner. But, there may also be a few things you, simply put, just ‘want your way.’

Just keep in mind the long-term ramifications of your decisions, and how it affects others.