Ladies, we really need to stop with the weight shaming.
It doesn’t matter if you’re a big woman, or a small; short, or tall. No one deserves to be made fun of, or to receive negative comments about their appearance.
Yes, the media and society has it’s standards of beauty, that we see plastered on billboards and every form of advertising. ‘This is what’s in’, and ‘This is what’s hot’, and as a woman, it can be pretty intimidating. The pressure felt by women (and men!) to be perfect by society’s standards, are very real.
Weight Shaming isn’t a new thing
In my lifetime, I have seen fair share of body shaming in the attempt to advertise – everything from fashion, to weight loss, to body definition, to even tanning booths. As did everyone else. Then a movement happened of body acceptance, to combat the eating disorders and self-esteem issues that the women of today face daily, fueled by bad advertising strategies. Some retailers and agencies started featuring more full figured women. The “skinny chic” look of underweight models became used less and less in the fashion industry. The ‘Dad Bod’ was born! And mother’s began proudly showing off their tiger stripe stretch marks on the beach without fear of remorse and bullying.
But then I noticed something else along with these progressive changes for body image. Known as ‘skinny-shaming’.
I’ve always been a small girl, from the time I was a kid. It’s in my family genes. On my father’s side, everyone is very tall, and very skinny. growing up, while I can’t imagine what’s it’s like being a young, adolescent girl dealing with overweight issues – I DO know what it’s like to be 14, naturally rail thin (not quite hitting puberty and the blessing of boobs yet), and accused of being anorexic by grown women. I was eating multipule times a day, couldn’t gain weight, and enduring the rudest of comments by women who should know better than to pick on a child because the child is skinnier than the adult. My aunt once tried consoling me by saying, “Enjoy it. Most women have to starve themselves to look like you.”
I thought once I grew into my body it would get easier, but unfortunately not. My adult life I would have strangers stop me in public, my job, and other random opportunities, to either say something rude (“You look like a crackhead, don’t you eat?”) or urge me to get help (“Are you anorexic? You are too skinny”) without ever questioning the true situation. I just couldn’t ever gain weight! I still can’t, even after having a child! (and a very healthy pregnancy).
Other than during pregnancy, always weighing 115lbs is the bane of my existence. Most call that a blessing – but when you’ve literally been hated for it your whole life, and can’t fix it, then it is a real cross to bear. I don’t hate going to the pool because of my body-I hate going because of what other women have to say about it.
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I’ve experienced a whole other side of body shaming. I get shamed for being too skinny. I constantly get comments saying I look ill and I look anorexic and I need to eat a burger… it is so hurtful but people think it’s okay because they’re ‘giving me a compliment’…
As have I! And yes, skinny shaming is a thing! Compliments never have negative undertones. I’m sorry you’ve experienced this as well.
People can be so insensitive!I constantly talk to my kids about developing empathy (and practice it as much as I can) … I think if we all stopped to think about the impact of our words, the world would be a better place.xo Nipa | https://fashionipa.com
I totally agree with this post! Body shaming is nothing new, but it needs to stop now! There truly is beauty at every size!
Kileen
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This is such a lovely post with a strong message so first of all thanks for sharing…body shaming is so wrong doesn’t matter if you’re skinny or fat. Nobody has the right to say anything about other people body, especially negative comments or offensive ones. My grandma used to say “if you don’t anything good to say to others don’t say anything at all” and she was right because negative comments can really hurt people in a really bad way x
I always received comments about being skinny growing up. No matter the size, these comments are hurtful.
Yes to saying no to body shaming! I really hope we can move towards not commenting on people’s appearance for any reason. The judgment just needs to end. I’m so sorry you experience this and I really hope people learn to stop.
What a great article! I shame myself all the time, and I really need to stop as well. It’s really hard when you are on a prescription that makes weight management really hard. I need to listen to the doctors and give myself a break on the reality of the situation.
I am so sorry to hear that you have had to deal with being judged like that. No one has a right to judge anyone unless they are perfect (which no one is). I think people tend to judge themselves enough without the help of others. Oftentimes that’s why I think people pass judgements on others. It stems from them feeling poorly about themselves, so they have to put down someone else in order to feel better. It is quite the shame and hopefully, we can put a stop to it!