The fairy tale

Fairy tales do come true,  but its only up to you…
 
Everyone has read them from one time or another. We are all familiar of the beautiful princess, who longed for her knight in shining armor to slay the Dragon, and rescue her from the evil Queen’s castle.
Then you grow up and realize you aren’t anything like the princess you identified with. More like an office girl, working a dead end job, who’s knight is more like a jackass in a Volcom t-shirt. The Dragon isn’t as evil as your boss is on a Monday. And the Queen’s castle is more like a third floor walk up on the Westside of town, with leaky faucets and a strange carpet mold in the closet that NO amount of bleach will kill.
What advantage that you DO have that our fictional muses didn’t,  is that you don’t NEED anyone to rescue you. No one but your self that is.
You have the power inside to change your situation,  no matter what. Everything starts with the will to succeed. Without that,  nothing can be accomplished.  You have to want things to change before they will.
Don’t allow fear to keep you from the things you want. You deserve a better job-a true hero-an awesome home.  But the doubt you carry within yourself is the only thing truly holding you back. A person can be unstoppable with the right motivation and attitude for change.
Find that one goal that you want more then anything. Then focus on how you can achieve that. Never let doubt take over your plans. When you begin to doubt,  your potential is immediately tainted by fear. Remember that no one can succeed without true will power within themselves.
No matter who you are,  everyone has unlocked potential to do whatever They want.  You just have to find it within yourself. When you decide that you aren’t going to let anything get in your way,  Not only do you become unstoppable,  but the world will rise to meet you.
Positivity breeds positivity, and first you have to rely on yourself to provide it. No one else is going to. You must breed it yourself.
Take it from this princess who finally decided she deserves a better life. It takes YOU quitting that crappy job, dumping the loser boyfriend, and getting out on your own, to be able to get exactly what you want out of life. Only when you take matters into your own hands, will you find the career you want, an amazing partner, and the life you deserve.
You have to chase your own fairy tale. No hero is going show up and whisk you away to a better life. Its all within you. Once you are able to harness this, everything changes. And then your fairy tale does come true♡

A child is not a competition

Since when did everyone have to have a better child than the next person? Why have our children become a competition?

Continue reading “A child is not a competition”

Sacrifice

“You have to be willing to give up everything you love when you have children…”

Making sacrifices is a big part of being a parent. It just kind of goes with the territory – you find yourself without the time to do a lot of the things you enjoy;  like going out, bar hopping, the movies, coffee dates, sleep…

But isn’t it rewarding?”

Oh, very much so. BUT this isn’t going to be one of those posts. There’s enough of those kinds of blogs on the internet,  and that’s one of the things that seems to be engraved into the psyche of new parents as soon as the test reads ‘positive’.

Children require a lot of sacrifice.
Looks like you won’t have time for that*anymore…. (*insert any hobby here you would like)

Just because you have children,  the person you were before doesn’t have to die,  and you don’t have to give up EVERYTHING you enjoy doing.  Hobbies and Social Events just may be placed on a back burner-you may find that weekly Girl’s Night Out turns into Once A Month Catch Up (When I Have A Sitter), and binge watching the new season of “Orange Is The New Black”, isn’t possible to accomplish in one night because as soon as baby is asleep,  you are also asleep (you are gonna give up a lot to be able to sleep, tbh).

But its important to find the time to do things for yourself.  You’ll be a well-balanced,  better parent if you do. Everyone needs a break. Post-partum depression is very real and sets in at different intervals for different people. For some moms (and dads,  let’s not exclude you either! ) the first few weeks can be an absolute nightmare. For others, it may not be until you reach the six month mark that you find yourself locked in the bathroom trying to find a few moments sanity somewhere under the sink because it’s 4am and the baby is teething and you simply. Cant. Anymore.

Support is key. And finding the time to just “turn off” and enjoy the little things,  like a trip to the grocery store alone, or meeting with girlfriends for one evening out,  is a great tool to take the edge off things.  Unfortunately,  the fact of sacrifice is so forcefully shoved down new parents throats,  that most forget that it’s ok to escape for a few hours and be yourself for a little while.

I’m not condoning never spending time with your kids. I think everyone knows of those few parents who are always gone and leaving their babies with someone else, be it family or babysitters. I myself was even guilty at one point of passing judgement on an acquaintance who left a newborn with grandma to party two weeks after delivery.

Well I would neverthat time is so important for Bondingand they are only brand new for so long! “

But again-this may have been exactly what that mother needed.  Maybe myself and the husband shouldn’t have waited six months to have our first post-baby date night (which was only three hours long and consisted of constantly checking our phones for missed calls and wondering if baby was ok. Needless to say it ended early). Who is to say which Behavior is better than another.

Having children is time consuming,  expensive,  and forever worth it. But as important as it is to give up certain lifestyle choices,  it’s just as important to keep doing the things you love as much as you can, to keep you happy and give yourself clarity.

Having a baby doesn’t mean you have to give up being a person-it just means your schedule and routine changes. The importance of things change order. But it doesn’t mean you have to give it up.

….. unless it’s drugs. Then by all means,
Give up that.

My plunge into the world of blogging

Wait,  is this another one of those “mommy blogs?

Sort of.

I can’t promise perfect grammar, the answers to life’s questions, recipes only your Grandma remembers, or even a new way to earn money from the comfort of your own home!

 

What I can promise is to share my experiences; as a woman, as a wife, and as a mother. Some truth mixed in with some humor, some opinion, a little inspiration (hopefully) and part of myself. Hey, as a stay at home mom I gotta do something for fun, right?

 

Maybe some of my stories, thoughts, and experiences can give you tools in your own journey through life. A laugh or two,  new idea, solace in the thought that someone shares the same views as yourself…

 

Or you might just decide “This chick is crazy…” and not give these blogs a second glance and find someone worth reading (send links if you do! )… either way,  I hope you get something useful from my ramblings.

 

I have (at this time) a nine month old son, a husband,  an obsession with cloth diapers,  friends going through all walks of different relationships I can live vicariously through and a kitty…. something for everyone I like to think. We will see. Its gonna be exciting to dive into the world of blogging. I’m gonna try to stick around a while-hope you will too ♡