World’s Best Husband

What makes the World’s Best Husband?
Well I could brag about mine all day. And usually do. Not because of any particular thing he does or says, but because of all the things he does as a whole.
I remember visiting his Dad once,  and my husband later telling me what he was instructed to do in order to let me know I was appreciated.
“Every once in a while,  buy her some flowers. “
He has never once bought me flowers.  But he knows I’m just not a flower kind of person. They are pretty,  but I’m not the kind of woman who yerns for a bouquet of expensive roses I’ll no doubt forget to water,  and allow to wilt away in a few days.
Ice cream?  Hells yes! Wine? Tequila?! Even better! He knows I can appreciate those things more than expensive flowers.
I craved lime all throughout my pregnancy, and as it got closer to our son’s birth,  I kept dropping hints that margaritas were in order as soon as I were released from the hospital.  I honestly forgotten all about it until the first night our new baby was home.  My sweet husband ran out,  brought back ice cream & Margaritaville mix, and said,  “You’ve done enough.  Relax for a while. “
At Christmas,  after listening to my ranting about society as a collective becoming worse and the world a scarier place,  He didn’t go out and get some over priced jewelry that will sit on my dresser for the majority of its life (because I don’t wear a lot of jewelry) or some other stereotypical Husband gift. He bought me a gun-made sure I could shoot it effectively-and bought my concealed carry permit.
“You need to know how to protect yourself if you’re ever in a situation and I’m mot around. ” And he made sure of that.
He talks to me. We discuss things that are going on in our lives,  and its not just to humor each other.  He takes a genuine interest in what’s going on other than the day to day trivial tasks of a SAHM.
Sometimes I’ll have girlfriends ask,  “how are things going between y’all? ” and they seem surprised,  maybe even disappointed,  that I don’t have a huge bitch list to get off my chest. But we really never fight-our arguments are even stupid and comical-and we have an all around healthy relationship.  And that’s how it’s supposed to be! You aren’t supposed to find yourself bitching about your spouse all the time.
And no, mine doesn’t shower me with flowers & jewelry at every holiday… and I don’t want him to. I want him to keep doing exactly what he’s doing;  paying attention to what I say and putting forth the effort to show that not only does he listen. But he cares.
And that’s why I have the World’s Best Husband.

It’s important to be a couple, as well as a couple of parents

Remember, you aren’t just Parents…

I think the hardest thing about having a baby and becoming parents, is remembering to be a couple.

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The fairy tale

Fairy tales do come true,  but its only up to you…
 
Everyone has read them from one time or another. We are all familiar of the beautiful princess, who longed for her knight in shining armor to slay the Dragon, and rescue her from the evil Queen’s castle.
Then you grow up and realize you aren’t anything like the princess you identified with. More like an office girl, working a dead end job, who’s knight is more like a jackass in a Volcom t-shirt. The Dragon isn’t as evil as your boss is on a Monday. And the Queen’s castle is more like a third floor walk up on the Westside of town, with leaky faucets and a strange carpet mold in the closet that NO amount of bleach will kill.
What advantage that you DO have that our fictional muses didn’t,  is that you don’t NEED anyone to rescue you. No one but your self that is.
You have the power inside to change your situation,  no matter what. Everything starts with the will to succeed. Without that,  nothing can be accomplished.  You have to want things to change before they will.
Don’t allow fear to keep you from the things you want. You deserve a better job-a true hero-an awesome home.  But the doubt you carry within yourself is the only thing truly holding you back. A person can be unstoppable with the right motivation and attitude for change.
Find that one goal that you want more then anything. Then focus on how you can achieve that. Never let doubt take over your plans. When you begin to doubt,  your potential is immediately tainted by fear. Remember that no one can succeed without true will power within themselves.
No matter who you are,  everyone has unlocked potential to do whatever They want.  You just have to find it within yourself. When you decide that you aren’t going to let anything get in your way,  Not only do you become unstoppable,  but the world will rise to meet you.
Positivity breeds positivity, and first you have to rely on yourself to provide it. No one else is going to. You must breed it yourself.
Take it from this princess who finally decided she deserves a better life. It takes YOU quitting that crappy job, dumping the loser boyfriend, and getting out on your own, to be able to get exactly what you want out of life. Only when you take matters into your own hands, will you find the career you want, an amazing partner, and the life you deserve.
You have to chase your own fairy tale. No hero is going show up and whisk you away to a better life. Its all within you. Once you are able to harness this, everything changes. And then your fairy tale does come true♡