Things You Learn As A Single Parent

The following is a guest post by Susy Richards. I cannot speak on the subject, being that I have never been in this situation. but she provides some insight on what can be, a tough subject! Being a PARENT isn’t easy, and being a Single-Parent is even harder!

Living The Single Parent Life…

Women never think that once they would witness divorce in their lives. However, sometimes life is not a bed of roses. Staying without a man for a woman means actual freedom although it is covered by the veil of fear and loneliness. But when a woman stays alone with children it’s a different ballgame. In order to face this challenge woman needs maximum courage, persistence, and even heroism.

Single mothers are far not a rarity and even some of them deliberately do not marry anymore. This is a conscious decision and sometimes caused by a lack of suitable gentlemen. After all, single women feel that it is much better to live alone with their children and without their husbands.

Believe me or not, but the time of my life without husband became a wonderful start for self-realization and self-confidence. I do not appeal to anyone to file for divorce after reading my post, I just want to help single mommies to benefit from this situation and take a positive look at the life that surrounds them.

Find yourself in the process of filing, or have just filed for divorce? Check out these 5 positive things you must do, immediately!

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Things You Learn Living A Single-Parent Life

So what tips have I learned from being a single Mommy living the Single-Parent life?

  1. There is no need to cook complex meat dishes anymore that will disappear till midnight. I know many women who spend their evenings near the stove in order to prepare a nice dinner. Kids are not so choosy in food and cooking for them is not hard and takes less time. Experienced mommies can prepare the menu for the whole week gaining some time for themselves.
  2. Household chores are greatly simplified especially if your children are grown up. There is no need to wash and iron men’s suits, to seek out his socks under the bed or shake the crumbs out the bed. Some men are so dirty that their wives start to relax after leaving. (Like me)
  3. Equip your home like the house of your dreams! You never liked this lamp in the form of a soccer ball? Feel free to get rid of it. For example, I added more plants, pictures and radically changed the colors of the walls after divorce. You can create a design that has always attracted you but your husband was against it. From now on you are the hostess of the house and you can change everything following your own taste.
  4. Your life would not witness “His mommy’s” boring conversations and other relatives’ stories anymore! There is no need to smile through force, to bear tips or biting words to your side. You will be able to do household chores as you want and not as “His mommy” wants. After all, your soup is actually much tastier than if it’s cooked according to “her lovely” recipe.
  5. You do not need to wait for him to come in the evening after his friends’ parties. Seriously.
  6. More space in the bedroom. Now you can sleep safely on the whole double bed instead of your half’s nestling. No one will pull the blanket, push you during sleep or get up an hour earlier than you need to. In addition, say “hello” to more space on shelves where you can place your clothes, lotions, and cosmetics.
  7. You do not need to give an account to anyone. You overstayed with friends and came too late? It is enough to pay the babysitter extra or to apologize to your mother. Say “goodbye” to the long speeches of a jealous husband. The same situation is with flowers from colleagues or talks with a neighbor.
  8. You can choose an interesting hobby for yourself and kids and spend less time at home alone. How to start? Just visit theaters, museums, premieres and meet with friends. You can make new acquaintances even through the Internet.
  9. A visit to a competent psychologist is not as scary as it seems. I have visited special psychological groups where divorced women discussed their problems in order to find its solution. Divorce with a husband is a tremendous trauma for any woman. Women experience the feelings of blame, guilt, uncertainty and the destruction of everything that had previously been accustomed. Even friends who have passed through this reality situation cannot give you the advice that an independent psychologist can give. Who wants to bear the burden of frustration until the end of life?
  10. In addition, there is freedom of choice in sexual terms. You can forget about thoughts like how to adjust to his mood or how to close my eyes to the fact that I do not like his look. An attractive woman can easily find a nice man to spend a good time. You can control the communication and when you want you can easily write or call and if there is no desire you can just keep quiet and enjoy your loneliness at home.

The Single-Parent Life Can Be Just As Rewarding!

To be honest, the lack of money, chronic fatigue, and vile men cannot compare to the happiness that kids can give to their mommies. Children are the incentive for mothers’ growth and triumphs!

Sooner or later all troubles would pass but your kids will stay with you. For me being a mother is real happiness and the rest of the world can envy-I don’t really care!

Things You Learn Living A Single-Parent Life

Susy Richards is a lovely mother of 3 girls (3 years, 4 years and 5) and simple woman ready to share her priceless experience with other mommies around the world. She is an Advanced Practice Provider who passed birth doula and postpartum doula courses at Childbirth International in 2013. She is passionate about providing holistic care and is involved in pregnancy research. Susy enjoys trips to the beach with her children and spending time with family and friends. 😉 She is a fresh mommy blogger and currently publishes her articles concerning pregnancy on Rocket Parents.com

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27 thoughts on “Things You Learn As A Single Parent

  1. Thanks for sharing a positive spin on a somewhat difficult situation. My mom was a single mom, and I wish she had a bit more of a positive outlook about it.

  2. It is so easy to always see the negative side ot hard situations. This mommy’s article focuses instead on the positive in a challenging situation.

  3. Aw this is really inspiring! Lots of those ideas can also apply to non-single parents – I can certainly relate 🙂

  4. I find several of these to be true being an empty nester. I still have a hubby to clean up after, but with grown children, life sure got easier. There is good and bad in everything. Nice to read such an inspiring article on single parenthood.

  5. I was a single parent for 6 years and it does have its advantages. Parenting can be tought whether you are a couple or not

  6. My sister is a single parent. I can see the pain and struggle in her but never asked for help on us. But we always support her in what she is doing. Thank you for sharing this and give a positive perspective for them.

  7. This is so powerful. I am not a single parent but there are so many of my friends that are either in it alone or have to coparent. This is something that is not as recognized as it should be.

  8. I’m not a single mom, but I have to say, I agreed with so much of your post! I am recently split from my husband and it’s amazing how free I feel and it has been a journey back to self reliance and confidence, but it has been so freaking worth it!

  9. There are so many single parents out there and this is a really great, empowering read. Thank you for sharing and being a voice for those who are doing it all on their own.

  10. I am a single mom of a teenager boy for several years now and I do agree with you. Peace of mind is one of the best gift to me after I left my baby Daddy that is so childish and jealous all the time.

  11. My cousin is a single parent and she is strong enough to take care of her baby and herself. I have always adored her for her positive mentality, outlook but at times she gets depressed 😔 I’ll definitely share this article with her, she’ll love reading it.

  12. very interesting post. I don’t know single parents and am not one but it is important to know about them.

  13. Hey there, thanks for sharing this! I loved seeing a positive side and attitude to something that is sometimes seen as bad thing.

  14. I have to agree with your points. I have a few friends who are single mothers and while it’s been freeing for them as far as relationships, it’s been hard on them for the children’s sake.

  15. Gah, sounds like this woman was absolutely miserable! I’m glad to hear she’s got out of that relationship!

  16. This is a post for single women in general. i had some relief with this when breaking up with live in exes before, some men can be so much more needier and messier than children. Its so real!

  17. Definitely positive and negatives to any situation, but it’s nice to hear this perspective, and to hear the positives for once.

  18. Choosing to have a positive outlook even in a difficult situation can make the ultimate outcome much more manageable!

  19. My husband travels a lot so I am often by myself with my little one. It makes me want to cheer on single parents because they are amazing!

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