5 Cloth Diapering Stereotypes, As Told By A Cloth Diapering Mom

I have really enjoyed reading this guest post from Shannon, at Traditional Mom, Modern World. I have definitely been at least one, if not several at the same time, of these Mom’s at one time or another. It’s a funny look at the Mother’s who live in the cloth world! Be sure to check out Shannon’s awesome blog, and thank you Shannon, for sharing with us today! This is hilarious!

 
By Shannon Walters | Traditional Mom, Modern World

Cloth Diapering is all the rage.

You see parents from all walks of life showing their support for reusable, eco-friendly diapers. Personally, I’m fascinated with the variety of mothers I’ve seen in the cloth diapering community. Just for fun here’s my list of 5 mothers you’ll probably meet at some point in your cloth diapering career.

The Non-Committed Mom

These mothers can’t decide what kind of diapers they like. One day it’s all-in-ones the next it’s pockets. You can spot these moms by how many different brands and styles they have. Testing all your options is great, but do you really need to have 11 different brands that are interchangeable? On the other hand…

All In

The All-In mom, she has read all the reviews online and is absolutely sure of what she wants. So, She buys a complete stash right away. Whether it’s BumGenius, Thirsties, or Grovia, this momma knows what she likes. Beware! Buying all of your stash without knowing how well they will fit your baby can be dangerous! I myself have two different styles because I have two different kids. Each baby is different- don’t be afraid to diversify.

The Penny Pincher

To be honest- this was me when I first started my cloth diaper journey. Penny pinchers look for the cheapest solution with the greatest value. Sacrificing convenience for savings; prefolds and flats are the diapers of choice for this category. Meticulously folding each and every diaper. It gets a little old, but that’s the price you pay to save a little extra cash.

Hardcore Hippies

Let me start by saying, I have a lot of hippy friends. Hippy moms tend to lean toward the organic and sustainably sourced diapers. Organic fitteds and wool soakers are what comes to mind. Wool soakers? Yes, it’s sounds absurd but believe me these things work. I am not however going to talk about people who harvest moss to use for diapering, so forget I mentioned it all together.

The Mailman Stalkers

These moms have an obsession. They literally stalk the mail couriers waiting for their fluff mail to arrive. Fluff mail? It’s what they call cloth diapers. If you’ve been waiting for a new print to become available, get in line because these moms will do almost anything to get their hands on the brand new Thirsties or BumGenius prints. Really, I think someone needs to host a fluffy bums anonymous for these ladies…

Before you get all defensive…

Remember, I’m just describing the moms I’ve seen and myself for pure fun. There’s no right or wrong way to cloth diaper. Everyone is different. What matters is we love our babies enough to put cloth diapers on their fluffy bums and set ourselves apart from the mainstream. So go on mommas, keep diapering those babies.

How do you cloth?

If you enjoyed reading this little list of stereotypes, be sure to share it with your friends. A little laughter can make all the difference in someone’s day!

 
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Why your husband should be your best friend too

I am a firm believer that your husband should also be your best friend.

A best friend is who you share secrets with. You call them when something exciting/scary happens, and you go to them when you need advice.

I can tell my husband anything. And I tell him everything. He is my biggest supporter, but also my most honest feedback. If something great (or even terrible) happens, it’s not real until I tell him. Activities are automatically more fun when he’s involved, and he is the biggest stress-reliever. That’s not to say occasionally he isn’t the cause of stress, but when I need things put into perspective, my husband is there.

So many qualities that my husband possesses, can also be found in a best friend (if it isn’t a prerequisite).

And realizing that, got me to thinking about this; how do we choose our best friends?

Well, similar interests, sense of humor, goals…all those things fall into what makes a Best Friend-category. Someone who will support and encourage you, falls into that as well. But, they must also be willing to be completely honest, even if it means saving you from yourself.

So, if your husband, (or fiance, or even boyfriend) isn’t doing any of these things, shouldn’t they be?

A best friend wouldn’t discourage your goals and dreams. They wouldn’t tell you things like, “That’s stupid,” unless it actually is a stupid idea. Like building a giant shoe rack that emcompasses the entire closet, knowing good and well that you are the type of person who will not use it and become frustrated when you have to sort 20+ pairs of shoes from the closet floor. This is what I mean by saving you from yourself. (Yes, this happened)

A best friend wouldn’t tell you not to eat those tacos, “Because you’ll gain weight”. They eat tacos with you.  They don’t demand that you not wear makeup, or dress a certain way, or need to know your every move. Best friends don’t suffocate your personal space or try to control you.

Sadly, so many women I know have partners that don’t do what their best friends would. What’s the point of a relationship like that?

My challenge for women everywhere is to replace any statement, or thought, about a subject that their husband or boyfriend might not approve of, and replace “Husband/Boyfriend” with “Best Friend.” If it sounds less than desirable, then maybe it’s time to reevaluate things.

Don’t think I’m secretly planning on breaking people up over this, but honestly; if you found yourself thinking, “Wow, my best friend would never say I’m not allowed to talk to my Mom!” and realized you were talking about your husband…and you find yourself uncomfortable…it might be a red flag. Just saying.

You should never feel afraid to tell your partner anything. Or fear they might be unsupportive. Or angry. Or jealous.

A husband needs to be the same as a best friend-to help you pick yourself up after a fall, to laugh with, to dream. If you can’t spend the rest of your life with your best friend..who can you spend it with?

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Bum Genius Cloth Diaper Review

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Bum Genius Cloth Diapers

Today I want to do a review of one of the more popular cloth diapers on the market, and one I have quite a bit of in my stash: Bum Genius!

Bum Genius was actually the very first cloth diaper I had ever heard of. I marveled at the simplicity of the system: A simple pocket with snaps, or aplix (velcro), with an absorbent insert inside. Now, there are dozens of brands out there, but this name stuck with me, so when I had the opportunity to try them, I did, and here’s what I like about the brand….

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Bruce, showing off his “Jules” 4.0 print

Multiple styles to choose from

Bum Genius isn’t just limited to simple pockets (which are their 4.0 Pocket which are still on the market, and the new updated 5.0). They also have two different styles of their AiO (All In One) diapers: The BumGenius Freetime and BumGenius Elemental . What’s the difference between these?

The Pockets are lined with a stay dry fabric, and a inner pocket for the inserts. The Freetime however, has two over-lapping microfiber inserts that are sewn to the insides of the diaper, No stuffing! And they are incredibly trim, unlike pocket diapers (which tend to be a little bulky). The Elemental is made with all organic cotton materials, and the insert itself is part of the diaper. Both materials have their own unique absorption abilities-microfiber can absorb quickly (but not a lot of water after a point). Cotton hold’s more water, but can take longer to absorb. The Elemental is also very trim for an AiO diaper. We use Elementals and Freetimes during the day, and 4.0/5.0 pockets at night (so we can double stuff them!)

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A “Mirror” solid color Freetime
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The inside of the “Freetime” diaper with the mircofiber flaps
unfolded
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inside of Freetime, properly folded and
ready for baby

The colors and prints are to die for!
Bum genius has a very unique color palette, and their shades do not disappoint! And their prints are super cute, and fun! Bruce has quite the little collection, and with so many to choose from, it makes coordinating outfits so easy!

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He has gotten a little harder to manage for photo shoots – wearing this
limited edition Chelsea Perry print, “Eiffel Tower” 4.0
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“Spencer” 4.0
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At the Great cloth Diaper Change wearing a
White Elemental solid

 

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He hates having onesies snapped – but it
matches this “Sassy” solid Elemental!

 

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A “Grasshopper” 4.0
(that’s Mommy’s lipstick on his forehead, promise!)

The fit is great…
but my son has always been chunky. But with the snap rise adjusted, most babies 8-35 lbs can wear any style. The only thing I have noticed about Bum Genius brands, are that the elastics tend to wear out easier with my chunky butt, but replacing them are super-easy and they actually have refresher kits for them (as well as aplix if you have those!).

I have a wide variety of brands within my stash, but I’ll admit, I do like my Bum Genius when I need a trimmer option for going out, or a nice fit for nighttime solutions. And some outfits, just need that certain color or theme!
What’s some of your favorites? Have you tried Bum Genius yet?
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Mispronouncing German: Our First Youtube Video!

I must give my husband all the credit with this endeavour.

Making YouTube videos is something I’ve always wanted to do. getting over the anxiety of watching (and especially listening) to myself on camera is another thing all together. But my dear husband, who is very skilled in german, and fluent in Russian, being the trilingual genius that he is, thinks it is absolutely hilarious to force me into trying to speak languages of which I have no prior knowledge of.

Eventually, because we want our son to also speak multiple languages other than our native English, I will have to learn (you can read my post about this on Working Mommy Abroad). For now, it’s just humorous to listen to me try.

If anything, even if we don’t get a lot of subscribers or even views, this will help my on-screen anxiety. And I love how supportive and enthusiastic my husband is about starting this. Although once comfortable, I’ll probably take my channel back for some of the vlogs I have been desiring to create.

He doesn’t get too involved with my blog, so this is a fun project we can do together (and one day, maybe Bruce will join us!). And will probably branch off into a lot of other videos, including different languages. If you like it, and want to see more, please subscribe to the channel!


And thank you for watching! At this point, anything that will help me deal with watching myself on screen, helps.

5 Reasons I Love/Hate Breastfeeding


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So, to commemorate our breastfeeding journey that is going on 14 months strong, I have compiled my list of 5 reasons it absolutely sucks…and why it’s also awesome, at the same time!

It’s not an easy feat for any mother to accomplish-and many can’t, due to production issues and a variety of other causes. But, it did come somewhat naturally to us, for which I am very grateful. But that doesn’t mean I still can’t be frustrated from time to time. Which brings us to our first reason…

1. It’s time consuming…
Especially in the first few weeks (or even months!) when Baby is cluster feeding. You’re pretty much confined to one area for X amount of time. Some mothers are super-duper multitaskers and can do a lot of things while feeding, but I still can’t. Nope-when Bruce wants to nurse, we sit down and make a meal out of it. I learned early on if I tried walking through the store with him in a wrap, that boob was eventually going to come out, and then we have other issues, like for instance….

2. Leakage…
At first, if we didn’t nurse every two hours at the most, my shirt was soaked (if not squirting across the room with let-down). And every time we did nurse, I would have so much engorgement in the other breast, that ounces would be wasted on those nifty reusable pads that are absolute must for every breastfeeding mother. Bruce also has a habit of leaving the tap running if he pulls off quickly. But, there’s hope… a milk-saver is a life saver! You’re able to save all the let-down and use for extra feedings, milk baths, or freezing. And it will save you from a wet top. I really loved the Milkies Milk Saver for catching all the extra milk. It fit inside all my nursing bras, and bruce was able to get sometimes an extra 16 ounces by how much i was producing. It saved my laundry as well. For those times when we couldn’t use the Milk Saver, we went with these awesome Organic Bamboo nursing pads-so absorbent, and the best part? Reusable!


3. Nursing bras are the worst

I hate a very special hate for nursing bras. I always get mine tangled, the pads inside become wonky, and it’s usually a hassle for the less-coordinated like myself, to snap them back up very fast.It’s hard to find cute ones (or maybe I’m just picky…actually, I know I’m picky) and they don’t always accommodate every outfit. It took a while but I did finally come across some that I can deal with…removeable pads, easy to breathe material, and best part? Affordable!

4. Your body isn’t necessarily your own…
As I mentioned with the time consumption, be prepared that your breasts, aren’t really yours for a time-they belong to the baby. To be used whenever necessary, needed, wanted, or even just out of boredom. Breastfed babies love their boobs! Naturally, they will want them a lot-and when they do, you’ll know it. Sometimes even at the worst times. My son has tried pulling my top down in enough stores to confirm this.
5.  Some people are NOT pro-breastfeeding…
It’s sad, but it is true. Yes, there are laws in place that allow you to feed anywhere, with or without a cover, but it’s still a pretty taboo thing in today’s society. Nearly every day there is another report of a mother being shamed into a back room, bathroom stall, or asked to leave an establishment entirely, because she is trying to nurse her child. This makes most breastfeeding mothers anxious and angry, especially if like my child, their’s refuses to use a cover. I’m the first to whip it out whenever necessary to provide sustenance for my child (my “give a f*ck list” is incredibly short), but that still doesn’t mean I’d like to try avoiding confrontation with the small minded.
…but all these things aside, here’s my top 5 reasons it’s also, like, the best thing ever….
5. You have downtime (and an excuse to excuse yourself)
The time you’ll spend lounging on the couch (or in bed) while nursing will give you ample time to catch up on social media, binge-watch youtube, or even read a book. That’s after you’ve talked to your baby, sang to them, told all those stories you’ve been waiting to tell a little one since you learned you were pregnant. Whatever it takes to keep you from going stir-crazy while sitting in one spot. And in an awkward social situation, like visiting relatives, when you really want to get out of a conversation-the baby will magically need to nurse!
4. It helps you build a schedule
At least, it helped me. Even with cluster feeding, my son pretty much nursed about the same time throughout the day. So we got into a routine of nursing, napping, nursing, playing, nursing…you get the picture. Especially with a newborn, everything about your life will begin to revolve around baby and on his schedule. So let it help you rebuild yours.
3. Your boobs will look amazing!
If like me, you’ve been mostly small chested your whole life, you will love this phase of life where you look amazing in anything you wear (although you’ll probably go for breastfeeding friendly clothes most the time). It’s natures boob-job and so much more cost-efficient than a real one. Just enjoy them while they last…
2. Your body is doing something incredible!
While your baby has pretty much taken it over since conception, keep in mind that what you’re doing while nursing, is a pretty awesome thing. You’re providing the most nourishing, natural way for your child to grow and develop, and that’s a wonderful feat. There are a lot of women who, biologically, just don’t have the means to produce (and really want to!) and here you are-just doing it! Doing what women have done literally since the dawn of time, to ensure their offsprings survival (in the days before formula). Not to mention just how healthy breast milk is for your child, providing vitamins and nutrients still not synthetically developed or available in formula. And you are bonding with your child like only you and your baby can. Cherish these times, if anything, for those who cannot.
And the number one reason (I think) that despite all the annoying inconveniences, breast feeding is still the best thing ever…
1. If you choose to breastfeed, you will find an overwhelming amount of support
Yes, there’s always those people who will *try* to shame you and for some reason, don’t like to see it (or know that mothers do it), but there is actually a great support system surrounding breastfeeding. Entire groups and organizations built for the sole purpose of education, encouragement, and providing resources to help facilitate all your breastfeeding needs. One of my personal favorites, with a local league in nearly every town, is the La Leche League. Just by talking to fellow mamas who are going down the same path in terms of feeding their baby, you can find a lot of great advice, and support amongst peers. Breastfeeding is becoming increasingly more accepted with all the awareness spread by these groups, and fellow mother’s as well.
This list was written with humor, but all joking aside-I’m not bashing formula (or tube) feeding in any way, shape, or form. But honestly, breastfeeding can suck. It can be tedious, annoying, inconvenient, frustrating, and downright a pain (and I haven’t even touched on sore, cracked, bleeding nipples, mastitis, or the disappointment of spilling 12 ounces of pumped milk that took an hour to get out).
But I believe it is worth all the tears to be able to provide what I feel is the best nutrition for my child, and to take part in one of the best bonding experiences we were ever able to have together. The pros really do outweigh all the cons.
Do you agree with these lists? What’s some of the downfalls (or upsides?) you have experienced as a nursing mom?
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