Things To Remember About Postpartum Intimacy

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Have you just had a baby?

You’re probably still dealing with a lot of changes! A new little person living in your home. Healing from childbirth. Getting used to the “new you” that is inevitable after becoming a Mother. All of this is perfectly natural! And you will be (as close to as, anyway) back to your old self soon. But one question you may be asking yourself… can I still have intimacy, while in the postpartum stage?

The answer is yes. Here’s some things to keep in mind, and tips to help out…

You still need time to heal and adjust

For some couples, it’s the first thing next to having a alcoholic drink for the first time in nine months, that you want to do. But slow down! It’s recommended that you wait at least six weeks (if you had a vaginal birth, 8-10 weeks for a cesarean) and get approval from your Doctor, before becoming intimate again. That’s because you still have a lot of recovery to do. The risk of infection is still present, and it probably won’t be entirely comfortable. If you had an episiotomy, or cesarean section, you also need to wait for those sutures to heal completely. Not to mention, that you will want to be on some kind of reliable birth control! Be safe, and wait for your Doctor to give you the A-OK, before you attempt intimacy again.

Every Mother’s Recovery Time Is Different…

Remember that when you have a baby, you have done something incredibly extraordinary with your body (and mind). Plus, your hormones are going haywire, not to mention the psychical and mental strength it will take to care for a newborn. So if you aren’t quite ready to return to intimacy, then don’t. Having postpartum relations can be an awkward, undesirable experience if you don’t feel up to it. Maybe you’re overtired, burnt-out on baby snuggles to think about anyone else touching you, or just not comfortable with yourself yet. It’s ok! Give yourself, and your partner, the opportunity to adjust to this new chapter called parenting, and the rest will come. If it’s been a while, and you’re genuinely worried about your lack of desire, it never hurts to talk with your doctor.

Be comfortable with yourself & don’t worry about criticism

One of the hardest things a Mother will encounter during the postpartum phase, is becoming acquainted with her post-baby body. You spend nine months growing a tiny human inside you, and then have to readjust to life with that human finally outside of you. So don’t be surprised that even months after you’ve had your baby, you don’t look quite like you did before pregnancy. Spoiler alert – you aren’t supposed to! You just created, and delivered, a tiny human!! That’s not to say you may never get your bod back to it’s original glory. But don’t feel like it’s a rushed, or unattainable goal. And frankly-so what if it is? Doesn’t change the fact you can be are a beautiful woman.

Many women don’t feel comfortable with their bodies after having a baby, and worry what their partner will think. But this is the thing – your partner will never see the “flaws” you see. Your partner still thinks you are smokin’ hot. So if you’re ready to become intimate again, don’t let your perception of your post-baby body hold you back. Because your partner certainly won’t.

And if by a slim chance they do, then stop and reevaluate your relationship. Because you deserve way better than someone who will criticize your Mommy Pooch (I have one!), stretch marks, or a little extra junk in the trunk.

 Postpartum Intimacy Is Nothing To Be Afraid Of

You’ve gotten through the long trial of pregnancy, and you’re readjusting to life with a new baby. If you’re healed, rested and de-stressed, and ready for intimacy again-go for it! Just because you’re a parent, doesn’t mean you aren’t human anymore. 



Things To remember About Postpartum Intimacy

Co-Hosting Mama Mondays Pin Party #1

Welcome to the Mama Monday’s Pin Party- where every link that’s left gets pinned!

This is a mom blog link up party. So If you are a blogger, please join in the party with us! if not, please check out what some other bloggers have been up to!

I love link-up’s because it gives me the opportunity to read what other’s within the blogging community have been working on. I have found some really awesome blogs this way. There is a vast wealth of information ranging from just about every topic, so no matter what you are into, a blogger is sure to have covered it!

I am co-hosting for the first time, with the creator of the Pin Party, Andrea from Messy Nest Mama.

Here is how the party works:

1.Add the Mama Monday’s Pin Party badge seen below to your blog post that you link up.

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2. Share the features from last week & the co-host feature below! You can share their post on the social media channel of your choice! *You must complete step 1 & 2 to be eligible to be featured next week!*

Messy nest mama Pin PartyUltimate Diaper Stockpile Guide– The Creator and Co-Host of the Party, Andrea – Messy Nest Mama
Pressure Cooker BBQ Pulled Pork Recipe– Five Little Bears
Red Ripe Strawberry Fun With The Little Mouse– Babies to Bookworms
3. Leave a link to a blog post that you want people to visit & you want the host to pin! Yes we pin each link left- but please only leave one link each week
4. Party! Hop around to your fellow mom bloggers who have linked up & make some new friends!



Mama Monday's Pin Party- Where Every Link Gets Pinned

Busy Mom With No “Makeup Time”

 I’m a busy mom with no “makeup time”

I can get the baby (and husband) looking picture perfect in ten minutes, flat. Myself, is a different story. Like most women, I need time. I need to be able to shampoo, condition, blowdry, and style my hair. Outfits need coordinating.  My shoes must be pondered. But realistically speaking? #Aintnobodygottimefodat… Especially a Busy Mom.

The most wonderful time of the year…

Every Mom wants to look her best during the holidays, if no other time of the year. There’s family to entertain, pictures to take, and commitments to meet. The last thing any of us want, is to be remembered as looking tired, haggard, or stressed.

There’s a few things I do, and use, when pressed for time before a big social event http://wp.me/p7XODP-g1 @jasminea5100

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Prep Early

If I need my toenails painted, I do it the night before. Clothes are laid out and pressed, once I’m sure I won’t change my mind. Which, is actually also done for the baby. And I make sure he’s ready before I’m ready. That way, if I need to scale back to keep from running behind, at least the baby is done. Even if whatever event isn’t until six hours, if I can go ahead and take 10 minutes to straighten my hair, I’ll do it. Busy Mom’s need to utilize their time wisely, so wherever you can save it and prep early, the better.

Ask for help

If my husband can keep our son from spilling juice on his Christmas sweater, while I’m trying to finish my makeup, it’s a win-win. I’m not freaking out over looking bad, and the baby’s white sweater won’t have stains on it. If anyone is around that can help hold the fort down, while you get dressed, take advantage of it. You’ll do a better job on your appearance if you don’t have to chase the kids around for a few minutes.

Stick to necessities…

While we all love curling (or straightening!) our hair, sometimes we need to delegate our time wisely. Most busy moms are known for their up-dos anyway! When I simply can’t justify spending time on it, a neat bun will do. You can also add in cute clips for a festive touch! And with necessities in mind, stick to the basics when running behind; Foundation, mascara, lipcolor. A little goes a long way! A good eyeliner never hurts either, and is my most used tool!

Quick Tips for Getting a Glam Party Look!Busy Mom with no "Makeup Time

Today, I’ve been swapping makeup tips with Nicole, at Cold Coffee and Chaos so if you want to see my main tools/products I use when I need to hurry, check it out (as well as some other awesome tips!) – while we may be Busy moms, we can still look our best when we really need to.

 

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Guest Post-5 Ways To Keep Your Sanity As A New Mom

Today, I wrote a post for Lisa Benavidez’s awesome blog, titled, “5 ways to keep your sanity as a new mom.”

Being a Mother isn’t easy, but there’s key things to do and remember to help keep you from losing your mind (and holding it together).

So be sure to head on over there and check it out, as well as her blog!

You Can’t Please Them All…

Life is too short to spend trying to keep yourself on everyone’s good side.

It doesn’t matter who you are; someone is going to have a problem with you. Be it in your work, family, circle of friends, It’s impossible to please everyone. Even if you try your best.
Believe me, I’ve tried.
There’s always going to be some coworker that is going to ruffle your feathers. Especially if you are in some sort of management or supervisor position. Even in job positions where you mostly work by yourself, there’s always someone who isn’t going to meet eye-to-eye with you over some little thing.
Families don’t always get along. And even if they do, there’s going to be some discourse from time to time. Your friends aren’t always going to agree with you, and may even get offended when you chose other priorities over them. Such is life.
The key is to try making yourself happy – not stretching yourself so thin just to accommodate everyone else.
If I don’t have time to pick up another coworker’s slack, if it doesn’t affect my work, then it might not get done. If I decide to have my son’s birthday party in my home, and invite whomever I want to it, it’s not going to be my problem if one person decides they don’t want to attend because they have issues with another family member. That’s their loss, not my son’s, or myself. If I can’t make the wine tasting because my responsibilities to my child come before ‘gossip time’ with my buddies, then so be it.
It does not do anyone any good to be a doormat. When someone is angry at you for not bending over backwards for them, ask yourself…would they really do the same for me?
As long as it isn’t something life-threatening, or extremely important (such as rescuing a stranded person on the side of the highway, or agreeing to pick up a kid from school when emergencies come up), then it’s okay to feel like you can’t commit to every little thing that people want you to do. The people who are true in your life will never hold it against you.
While I might not pick up an extra shift on my off days because someone “Just doesn’t feel like coming in,” or maybe I won’t agree to extravagant locations for family gatherings so it’s easier for people to not talk to each other, or even if I don’t leave the baby with Daddy so I can be the “wing (wo)man” with a single friend as they flirt with the cute guy who bar tends at the club pool, know this…
When you’re in a car accident and late for shift change, I’ll keep things going until we hear you are ok. I’ll check on you and make sure you are spoken to at Christmas time, and don’t feel left out. I’ll hear you cry about the bartender after the nasty breakup, and give you a shoulder to lean on.
I’ll be there when it’s important. I just can’t be there every. Single. Time. Because life is just too short to keep everyone happy all the time.
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