Studies have shown that direct skin-to-skin contact, is incredibly beneficial to a newly born baby. One Dad became inspired after the birth of his own child, and created a pretty innovative product to help Dads’ everywhere take part in bonding! Introducing, DadWare! Continue reading “The Importance Of Skin-to-Skin Contact & Introducing DadWare”
Looking for options with your home decor?
I’m super picky about what I display on the walls of my home. When you enter my home, I want you to get a sense of the things I find important. I also want the personalities of myself, and my family, to shine through our decor. Today, I want to show off this beautiful piece from 76th & Newbury, and talk about their design process… Continue reading “Customized Home Decor with 76th & Newbury”
#BabyLove: My Toddler Life, by Corine Dehghanpisheh
Does your toddler love to play with your phone? The new book, #BabyLove: My Toddler Life, may be just the addition you needed to your home library!
This is a sponsored post in which I have received a copy of this book for free, in exchange for a review. My opinions are 100% my own and not swayed in any way. This post also contains affiliate links. See full disclosure policy page for more info.
This is a really cute story, about a little boy who loves playing with Mommy’s phone. Because of course, what toddler doesn’t? That is, until something happens. Then the little boy, and readers, learn a pretty valuable lesson in something I think most parents are guilty of from time to time. Sometimes, even though we use our phones to document our family life, and the milestones our children reach; every so often, you just gotta put the phone down.
The book itself is beautifully illustrated, and very well written. My son loved reading this with me, and it’s rhyming structure makes this a great book to practice reading with your little one. Granted, my son is really more into the pictures, which are bright and eye-catching!
There’s also something to learn for both parent and child. Kids will be reminded of how we really shouldn’t play with an adult’s phone. And their parents are reminded of just being mindful, and enjoying the moments (without necessarily whipping the phone out to document every second).
The author herself, Corine Dehghanpisheh, is a Licensed Creative Arts Therapist, in New York City. She has written several children’s books. This is the second in her series, the first being BabyLove: My Social Life
You can check out her website here!
With huge thanks going to Corine for allowing me to review this awesome book, I am so happy to announce we will be joining together for a Giveaway! You can enter below to win a free copy of this great book! Remember, even if you don’t have a toddler at home, this makes for an excellent gift! The winner will be chosen via Rafflecopter, so be sure to fill out each entry to increase your chances of winning! This giveaway will end at Midnight, EST on January 22nd!
My rating: 5 of 5 stars
Beautifully illustrated book that teaches children not to play with their parents smartphones, and reminds parents to be mindful, and to put the phone down! A great tool for also teaching children to read with it’s rhyming scheme!
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Remember your favorite classic toys?
One of the perks of being a parent, is being able to show your kids the classic toys you once loved. While our son is still kinda young for some of these, we are still excited for the day he can play! This is a roundup of a few classic toys, that you might remember from childhood…
Remember Super Mario Bros, Donkey Kong, and The Legend of Zelda? Well now, you can get those, and 27 other pre-installed in this throwback of early video gaming. This Classic Nintendo comes with a standard HDMI cable, so it plugs right in, ready to go! You can flex your old school gamer skills against the kids, without their fancy controllers and headsets. It’s 8bit heaven that’ll make you feel young again! And the kids will like it too! Although they’ll totally miss out on the annoying dust inside the cartridge, and won’t need to “blow” inside to get it to work again.
Every kid had one of these growing up, in some shape or form. You either had small pistols, medium sized soakers, or double barrels that out out a gallon a piece. If you were really cool, you had a keychain 😉 Well now, these water guns are better than ever, and perfect to get kids outside during the summer! Plus, it’s a rule that parents get the biggest of them all.
These little cars will never die out-kids love them! And there’s millions to choose from. No matter what your favorite style, model, or color; there’s a Hot Wheels for it. The Criss Cross track was one every kid had to have (or, if you were a girl, you played with your Brother’s). Still an awesome toy, and one they will def need help putting together by Mom & Dad.
What’s some of your favorite classic toys growing up, that you can still find today?
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“You Look Tired”
If I had a dime for every time someone told me I “Looked Tired,” let’s just say I wouldn’t be a “starving writer” anymore.
It’s utterly exhausting having to care and nurture a newborn baby. Or even an infant, or a toddler that wakes in the night. Actually, even if they sleep all through the night. Because just chasing them, and playing with them can wear someone out. Not to mention, the whole “living and working” thing you have to do for yourself. So it’s no big surprise that the majority of Parents are tired. And if you are a Mother, then that statement goes double for you. Not to downplay Fathers, but typically Mom carries a heavier “child” load. That’s the one kids go crying to when they are hungry, scared, tired, hurt, bored…the list just goes on. But, I’m not talking about that today.
Today, I’m going to explain why we need to stop telling Parents that they “look tired.” And give you some pointers on how you can actually help them.
Now, before anyone get’s upset, I do realize that most of the time, those comments are just a way of initiating conversation. It’s someone checking on the person they love. They wanna make sure that parent is ok. And they need to be doing that! But from the perspective of someone who gets this a lot, it can get very tiring itself. Especially when you don’t have much of a choice about how much rest you actually end up getting. And honestly, after repeating the same answer over and over again on why you aren’t looking like a freshly rested daisy every day, you really don’t want to be bothered with enlightening someone on sleep-deprived trials of parenthood, again.
Parents know they look tired…
Mainly because they are tired. And I’ve never once responded to that statement with shock or surprise. When you’ve been up half the night with a feverish, teething infant, not to mention the normal routine of the day, guess what? You’re gonna be tired. Can’t get the kids to bed until two hours past everyone’s bedtime, you’re gonna be tired. Stating the obvious doesn’t really help the exhausted one become any less exhausted.
If it’s someone I know well making comments like this, I know it’s more out of concern than anything else. But even then, it’s rare I get an offer to watch the baby while I take a break. But sometimes, we get these comments at very random moments-such as at the grocery store, or work, or even at social gatherings – by people we don’t really know. In a way, it seems even more useless to me; I’m struggling to get my kid’s shoe back on his foot in the shampoo aisle (SO not happening during this toddler tantrum), while a random person has stopped to comment on how cute his outfit is, only to part with a sarcastic, “You have a handful there! No wonder you look so tired.”
I get it. With my complexion, I have permanent dark circles. The lines are getting deeper, more with age than by children, and spoiler alert: I’m not in my indestructible 20’s anymore.
The thing is…
You must understand something. Telling someone they “look tired” without offering any real support (such as watching the kids, helping with a chore/errand, or even offering to buy a cup of coffee), is more annoying and unnecessary for the parent, than anything else. No mom is ever going to stop dead in her tracks, immediately place cucumber slices on her eyes, and veg out in the bathtub, because her Mother-In-Law mentioned that she should “probably get some rest”. A parent’s priorities don’t work that way. If it takes staying up all night to care for your child, sleep comes second. Or last, or not at all.
And honestly, when you’re running on six hours sleep in two days, this is the last thing you want to hear. Mom knows she needs sleep. She also knows the baby is cluster feeding every two hours. The toddler is going through a growth spurt, and has no sleep schedule. And she is working a full-time job, and trying to spend as much time awake as possible, to run a household. And spend time with her family. Sleep is probably the last thing she’s thinking of.
Ways you can help
Instead of basically telling a parent they look like stir-fried poop (only, in a subtle, less rude way) by commenting on how “tired” and in “need of some rest” they are, try providing a solution instead. Offer to take the kids on an adventure. Doesn’t have to be for very long, but enough time so Mom can catch up on chores or even better, take a nap! She may not take you up on the offer immediately, but at least it’s a way to support her after you’ve brought up the obvious. You could also offer to run errands, finish a load of laundry – something to help lighten her load. Because if she’s too busy to sleep enough, then she needs actual help, not just well wishes for future “rest.”
And whether you know this parent very well, or not at all, if you must inform them of the apparent sleep they are lacking, you can also always cushion the blow by giving them a cup of coffee. Or tea. Or an energy drink. However they derive their liquid fuel to get them through the day! It looks and sounds way better to follow, “You look so tired!” with a steaming cup of Starbucks. Then, there’s also more of a point to bring up their exhaustion, which trust me, they are very aware of.
Also, great upcoming gift idea here: Get them some different brands of coffee (or other energy) to try out. The point here is to let that parent know that you aren’t just making remarks, but you are interested in their well being. And if they don’t (or can’t) accept help in any other way than accepting coffee, then it shows that you are trying to help in the least way possible.
Alternatively, you can also just give them a gift card! To be used at any time – trust me, someone running low on energy, with no choice but to push on, will be grateful for it.
Everyone needs support
And support comes in a variety of ways. But well wishes for rest and relaxation don’t really provide a solution for a sleep-deprived Parent. So, on behalf of all the “tired looking” Moms out there, can I just please ask this; if you must comment on my haggard appearance, please…just bring me coffee. And it’ll all be Ok.